The Self Confident Footballer

August 25, 2025

We have reached the tail end of the season. It is a good time to give your son/daughter a self-confidence ‘Boost’.

To help your son’s/daughter’s self-confidence, parents should foster a positive, supportive environment by focusing on effort and progress, not just wins. Model confidence yourself, set realistic goals, and allow your son/daughter to have fun and make mistakes, as these are crucial for learning and growth. Encourage autonomy by letting them take responsibility for their own football career and develop a strong self-concept that isn’t solely based on their performance.

Create a Supportive Environment:

Focus on Effort & Progress:

Praise your son/daughter for his hard work, positive attitude, and any small improvements they make, not just for the outcome of his games.

Allow for Mistakes:

Help your son see that mistakes are opportunities to learn and improve, and show him how to cope with setbacks rather than dwell on them.

Let your son/daughter have fun:

Remember that football should be enjoyable. If it becomes a source of pressure, it can negatively impact their confidence and motivation.

Foster Positive Habits and Mindset

Model Confidence:

Show your son/daughter what confidence looks and feels like by remaining calm, relaxed, and positive yourself.

Set Realistic Goals:

Work with your son/daughter to set achievable goals that challenge them but are within reach, preventing the fear of failure.

Encourage Self-Sufficiency:

Teach your son/daughter to be responsible for their training and gear, like packing his own kit, which builds a sense of ownership and capability.

Communicate and Connect

Communicate Effectively:

Create a connection where your son/daughter feels comfortable confiding their fears and doubts to you, making them more resilient in the face of challenges.

Avoid Negative Feedback:

Resist the urge to coach during a game. Instead, focus on providing positive reinforcement after a competition, acknowledging what they did well.

Support Unconditionally:

Ensure your son/daughter knows they loved for who they are regardless of their performance, helping them develop an internal sense of worth separate from their football.

Video: 6:31 minutes. Be a More Confident Athlete. Eli Straw.